How to Cope with a Breakup
Breakups can be very difficult and emotional. By reading on, you will be able to learn the advice I’ve learned over the years that might help you to move on, make things right between you and your ex or even give your relationship a second shot.
For whatever reasons you guys broke up, it doesn’t matter, because in the end, the reason you guys broke up is because one of you needs space from the situation. Use your time apart as chance to experience many things. You can do anything from experiencing life as a single person, dating other people, to thinking about your life and where it’s going. You could do anything with that time apart. If you’re the one that got dumped, then your partner just needed to step back and contemplate the situation and see what their options are.
My recomendation to you if you got dumped, is give your partner some space. You will push them further away from you if you keep bugging them about getting back together. Understand that they need space and if you keep calling or texting them, they are going to push you away further because you aren’t giving them the space they need. If you really want to keep in touch with your ex as just friends or a way to get back together, then you will have to give them the space the need. Understanding this important rule gives you a chance to properly give them the space they need .
I usually tell my friends that are going through this to take about two weeks to a month to stop all contact with thier ex. Giving them space is definitely not easy. Oh, I know how tempting it is to call, text or email your ex, it can be torture to fight back those urges.
Giving him space will work in your favor because your ex will have time to miss you. I promise that you will be on his mind while you are giving him the space he needs. He will be thinking of all the good times you guys have shared together. You’ve heard it before, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
You’ll also benefit from the “no contact” rule yourself. This time alone will give you a chance to decompress from all the messy feelings that coincide with a recent break up. You can use this time to decide if this relationship is worth saving. Having some time to yourself can also give you the opportunity to try new things and meet new people. You might learn that you are an improved person when you not with him.
It’s a possibility that your ex might be wanting you back and will actually be contacting you at this time. It may feel like your prayers are answered if you’ve done all you can to get him back only to find all you’ve done was drive him away.
So, take my advice and don’t contact your ex for a few weeks. These might be trying times for you but I assure you that giving him space will improve the situation.
If you enjoyed this article, also check out Breaking Up Advice, How to Bounce Back from Heartbreak, and Coping with Breakups.
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