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Samuel was a thirty-six-year-old cost estimator who was sick of feeling depressed everyday and sick of his hazardous and excessive drinking behavior. Stated simply, he was tired of going through shattered relationship after shattered relationship due to his excessive drinking, he was sick of feeling lackluster every morning, he was annoyed with himself for spending his hard-earned money on a useless habit, he hated the hangovers he experienced on a recurring basis, and he missed his old enthusiasm for doing the things he liked.

Additionally he was disgusted with how out-of-shape he was, he was irritated with the many times he failed an alcohol test at work, he was fed up with paying for alcohol-related lawyer fees, he hated the fact that he had to go to court for his first DUI, and he was bored with his drinking buddies.

In addition to the observable alcohol-related health difficulties he was experiencing, probably the nastiest part of his drinking regimen was the undependable and scheming individual he had become. In his heart he knew that he had been deceitful about his drinking behavior to his relatives, friends, and family and he also knew he had been lying to himself about the “positive” effects of drinking. What is more, he justified wolfing down four or five drinks before going to social events and he also rationalized needing one or two drinks as soon as he awakened so that he could deal with the “tension” at his job.

His Depression and His Irresponsible and Abusive Drinking Lead to Important Life Changes

Clearly Samuel was sick of putting up with the negative outcomes of his depression and his abusive and excessive drinking and finally determined that something major had to change in his life. So he made up his mind that he would abstain from drinking, get professional counseling, develop a new circle of friends, start focusing on becoming a more healthy person, involve himself in some worthwhile hobbies, and start exercising.

Simply put, Samuel got to a pivotal time in his life during which he realized that he hit the bottom of the barrel in his life and was now prepared to begin the slow road to recovery.

One of the ways that Samuel implemented his “plan” was by requesting a transfer at his workplace. When his request was approved, he moved 850 miles away to a new part of the U.S.. If nothing else, this unquestionably made making new friends and buddies and detaching himself from his old friends and buddies simpler. Then he visited with a physician in his new city and made an appointment for a comprehensive physical and psychological exam.

Samuel Meets With a Physician About His Excessive and Hazardous Drinking and His Depression

After meeting with the healthcare practitioner and going through a number of laboratory tests, it was decided that Samuel had made the transition from alcohol abuse to dependency on alcohol and as a result was in need of alcohol detox and alcohol rehabilitation. At this time, the doctor made it a point to discuss the different signs of alcoholism, the symptoms of alcoholism, and information about long term alcohol effects with Samuel.

The doctor then told Samuel that it was concluded that he was clinically depressed and in need of therapy for this medical problem.

Samuel Decides to Fortify His Body by Drinking Distilled Water, Living an Alcohol-Free Way of Life, Going to the Gym, Eating Wholesome Foods, and Taking Vitamins

Due to his readiness to follow through with the rehab therapy, after nine weeks of inpatient treatment, Samuel was ready to start therapy on an outpatient basis. At this time, he started working at his new job and over the weeks began building up his body by drinking distilled water, exercising, living an alcohol-free lifestyle, taking vitamins, and eating healthy foods.

Samuel also dealt with his spiritual side of life by joining the local Anabaptist church and participating in regular services.

After just about five weeks of outpatient therapy during which time he never went through a relapse, Samuel quit going to alcohol therapy and instead started going four times every week to local AA meetings. Going to these meetings helped Samuel continue his alcohol-free lifestyle, they gave him the support he wanted, and they served as a unceasing reminder of the damaging outcomes that are related to unhealthy and abusive drinking.

After going to AA meetings about eight-and-a-half months Samuel felt that he was ready for a relationship and so he started going out with Janet, a young woman he met at church. It simply astonished Samuel how much more prepared he was for a dating relationship now that he had his abusive and hazardous drinking under control. In actual fact it also amazed Samuel how much better life was now that he wasn’t under the control of his unhealthy and abusive drinking. Life was now positive and loaded with promise that he could have never longed for or realized when he was involved in careless drinking just a few short months ago.

A Success Story That is a Testament to the Value of Alcohol Treatment and the Power of Positive Thinking

Samuel’s success story is a verification of the relevance of alcohol rehab and the power of positive thinking. As Samuel reflected on his newfound positive self image and drive for involving himself in healthy, worthwhile activities, he was actually appreciative that he decided to do something positive about his careless and hazardous drinking rather than giving into his depression and into the lure of his alcohol addiction. The result: he has more energy now compared with any time in his adult life, he is in command of his life rather than letting himself suffer under the control of his alcohol addiction, he is involved in a wholesome relationship, his life now has a positive direction, and he likes his new job responsibilities.

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Nearly eight months ago I had dinner with a forty-nine-year-old male named Alexander who experiences intense depression, has relationship difficulties, and who is addicted to drugs and alcohol. As articulated by Alexander, it is his drug addiction and alcoholism and his intense depression that had the most to do with his continual relationship issues.

I remember hearing that a history of mental health issues, drug addiction, and unhealthy and abusive drinking often happen in the same family. Moreover, I remember hearing that under such circumstances, an individual needs to get treatment for both medical conditions and that addiction and mental health difficulties tend to occur in the same person.

As articulated by Alexander, he is so dejected by his relationship difficulties and by both of his medical problems that he basically has no driving force to do much of anything. What is particularly sad about this is that earlier in his life, Alexander completed five semesters of graduate school in urban studies.

Alexander’s condition makes me question if he is an example of an individual who can look within and perceive his drug abuse and alcohol drinking problems and do something healthy about these difficulties or if he is someone who has to hit the very bottom before he gets alcohol and drug dependency treatment that leads to long lasting sobriety.

The Need For a Rehab Protocol He Can Believe In and a Healthcare Professional He Can Trust

If it would be helpful I would suppose that I could suggest quite a lot of websites that could possibly help him locate info about drug abuse symptoms, the stages of alcoholism, substance abuse information, and relationship issues. In my humble opinion, however, Alexander needs to locate a treatment regimen he can believe in and follow through over the long term and locate a psychologist he can trust.

I could be incorrect but it seems to make sense that Alexander probably needs to look within himself regarding his drug addiction signs and alcoholic symptoms and recognize the fact that he cannot use drugs or even drink in moderation if he wants to get sober, remain sober, and start on the route to lasting sobriety.

It may be asked how treatment would help his drug and alcohol addiction. First of all, there are more than a few newly produced physician-prescribed meds that can help Alexander through his withdrawal symptoms, through the drug and alcohol detoxification process, and help him avoid a drug or an alcohol relapse.

Second, Alexander would learn to accept the fact that there is utterly nothing constructive about substance abuse and careless and hazardous drinking and that involving himself in one or both circumstances is the map to legal problems, a premature death, financial difficulties, deteriorating health, poor work and school performance, and shattered relationships.

Third, therapy for his depression and for his relationship issues might help him manage these medical problems more effectively and perhaps create less of a need for him to engage in addictive behavior.

The Significance of Support Groups Like Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous

There are possibly several other people, friends, and family members who would like to help Alexander with his drug abuse and his harmful drinking. He more likely than not would experience greater tolerance from a support group such as Narcotics Anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous, however, instead of listening to people who do not drink or who have never taken drugs.

When People Accomplish Things They Like and About Which They Are Ardent

There’s a school of thought in life that contends that people who accomplish things they love and something about which they are passionate arrive at an astonishing place in life. That is, when people do what they love, they hardly ever go through boredom or an uneventful life. If they get involved in something that is worthwhile, moreover, they become more whole and experience more pleasure and delight in life and in their relationships.

When this is examined in more detail it becomes apparent that this uplifting attitude is the exact opposite of a life that is rooted in drug and alcohol dependency because such a lifestyle removes the satisfaction and joy that life has to offer.

Since Alexander doesn’t have the ambition to do much of anything in his life, it is clear that he definitely needs some hope for a more productive lifestyle. And the unfortunate thing is that hope is virtually everywhere around Alexander if he could only get to the point in life to get the therapy he requires for his severe depression and drug addiction and alcoholism and stick with his treatment protocol.

Stronger Relationships, Constructive Change, Self Esteem, and a Wonderful Life Are a Reality

Alexander is clearly too young to be beaten in life. He doesn’t comprehend this right now but if he can learn how to abstain from drugs and alcohol through drug and alcohol therapy and get the counseling he requires for his intense depression, he can turn his life around and start living with passion, direction, and with self-respect.

Stronger relationships, affirmative change, self esteem, and a wonderful life are certainly possibilities for Alexander if only he could get motivated to seek the professional rehab he needs, follow through with his therapy program, live his life in a healthy and sober manner, and learn how to cultivate a more positive attitude about his life.

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Around three weeks ago I heard about a twenty-three-year-old female named Rachael who is manic depressive and who is also addicted to drugs and alcohol. I remember reading that in such situations, an individual needs to get treatment for both medical conditions and that mental health difficulties and dependency often take place in the same person. In addiction, I remember hearing that a history of excessive and careless drinking, drug addiction, and/or mental health concerns many times happen in the same family.

Plainly, Rachael is so defeated by both of her medical problems and her relationship difficulties that she in actual fact has little or no reason to do much of anything. What is particularly sad about this is that earlier in her life, Rachael finished two years of college. Rachael’s circumstance makes me wonder if she is an illustration of an individual who has to hit life’s bottom before he or she gets alcohol and drug dependency rehab that results in long-term sobriety.

The Need For a Therapist She Trusts and a Counseling Regimen She Can Believe In

If I were in contact with Rachael I could suggest quite a few websites that could possibly help her locate information about addiction and alcoholic behavior, pertinent chemical dependency information, facts about alcoholism and drugs, info about addiction symptoms and alcoholism warning signs, and relationship info. In my humble opinion, however, Rachael needs to locate a healthcare professional she trusts and a treatment program she can believe in and follow through over the long term. I could be in the wrong but it seems to me that Rachael more likely than not needs to acknowledge the fact that she cannot drink in moderation or use drugs if she wants to get sober, stay sober, and start on the path to lasting sobriety.

I am aware that there are a number of newly discovered doctor-prescribed meds that can help Rachael avoid a drug or an alcohol relapse, help her through the drug and alcohol detox process, and help her through her withdrawal symptoms. Obviously it would be in Rachael’s best interests if she became conversant with these drugs.

It is clear that Rachael needs to acknowledge the fact that there is absolutely nothing helpful about hazardous drinking and substance abuse and that messing around with one or both situations is the route to financial difficulties, shattered relationships, poor work and school performance, legal problems, deteriorating health, and a premature death.

The Relevance of Support Groups Such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous

There are reasonably quite a few persons such as friends, family members, and other people who would want to help Rachael but she more likely than not would experience greater sympathy from a support group such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous rather than listening to individuals who rarely drink or who have never abused drugs.

When People Accomplish Things They Love and About Which They Are Passionate

There’s a philosophical attitude that declares that individuals who do things they like and something about which they are zealous attain a fantastic place in life. That is, when people do what they love, they hardly ever experience an uneventful life or boredom. If they get involved in something that is satisfying, what is more, they become more actualized and experience more satisfaction and delight in life and in their relationships.

To me, this sounds quite a bit different from a life that is centered in chemical dependency because such a lifestyle removes the gratification and joy that life has to offer.

Due to the fact that Rachael doesn’t have the fortitude to achieve much of anything in her life, it is clear that she urgently needs a little hope for a better life. And the sad thing is that hope is all around Rachael if she could only get to the place in life to get the therapy she needs for her mental illness and alcohol dependency and drug addiction and stay with her treatment routine.

More Positive Relationships, A Wonderful Life, Self Esteem, and Positive Change Are a Reality

Rachael is simply too young to be beaten in life. She doesn’t realize this at the moment but if she can learn how to refrain from drugs and alcohol through alcohol and drug therapy and get the counseling she requires for her mental health condition, she can redirect her life and start living with passion, direction, and with self-respect.

Better relationships, positive change, self respect, and a meaningful life are certainly a reality for Rachael if only she could become inspired to seek the professional treatment she needs, follow through with her therapy regimen, live her life in a healthy and drug and alcohol-free way, and foster a more positive attitude about her life.

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If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship  for a long time, you may loose your ‘inner compass’ and can become convinced that you are worthless, and that is all your fault, and  you feel like you have nowhere else to go.

Try to honestly answer this questions to yourself:

• Is your ultimate fear to be left alone, without no one to love you?
• Do you sacrifice your own wishes, just to please your partner?
• Do  you become more submissive after  your partner  abuses?
• Do you felt obligated to have sex, just to avoid arguments?

If you are in a relationship wherein emotional abuse happens everyday, the effects are dangerous than any form of abuse because it can be frequent. The effects of emotional abuse can be subtle, it makes you feel that you are the problem in the relationship even if you are not. It makes you doubt your self-worth and erodes your self-esteem.

Here are the negative effects of long-term emotional abuse:

• Low self-esteem
• Emotional Stress
• Health Problems
• Depression
• Isolation
• Alcohol or drug use

You may seem introverted, quiet, or may appear confident and extrovert, which is an act to fool the outside world so that you can hide the humiliation you are experiencing. You are resistant to seek help from others and decided to deal with it on your own. if you continue to have communication with an abusive partner, it can drag you back to the same situation.

You must try to do something if your partner is unwilling to seek help or knowledge.
The recovery process can be long and painful. It may influence your mentality and may decide to hurt yourself. It may result to suicide when dealing with a long-term emotional abuse. You would become fearful and feel undeseving and unlovable.

If only you would seek proper counseling, this chain of suffering could be stopped once and for all.

 

To your happiness,

Neil Warner
Positive Conflicts
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