Win Back Your Ex
The break up was painful, and the time apart is excruciating. You think about that man night and day, usually while either sobbing or stomping around angry. You have been set up on dates by your friends but none of them seem to compare to your ex boyfriend and your sure that he will be the only one ever for you. You have to get him back but first you have to figure out how to get your ex back and you will get him back, no matter what it takes, because you know that if your given just one more chance it will work out this time. However you need a bit of help figuring out how to get your ex back and a bit of support from your friends.
Chances are good that you said some things you regret during and after your breakup about your ex. Your friends probably agreed with you or even added fuel to the fire, either way plenty of harsh words have been said. Oh yes, ugly words have more than been said. It is a good idea to let your friends in on your idea before you try to win back your ex. Explain that you were angry and that you appreciated their support during that terrible time of your life, but that he is truly the man you love and that their continued support is needed.
Because they are your friends and they love you, they will do anything that they possibly can to help you get your ex back. Wrong! At least not at first. They will probably throw a fit and tell you that you are crazy. Just remember that they will do this because they are your friend and don’t want to see you have to go through that ordeal again. However after they calm down, they will come around to your view point and give you the support that is much needed by you.
Next you need to figure out why you want to get back together with your ex. Are you still in love and miss him, or do you not like to be alone? Did you have a couple of dates not go so well and it’s comfortable being with your boyfriend? Are you afraid that he is the only one you will ever love? You have to be very honest with yourself, this is important because the problems that existed when you were dating did not just magically disappear. They did not magically disappear they just don’t seem as important right now.
His bad behaviors did not magically clear up when you broke up, so consider everything before moving ahead. If the reason you broke up was because you were in the middle of an argument that is one thing, but if he had a habit or two that you simply could not tolerate, then sadly the cycle will probably repeat itself and you will be hurt all over again. It also never hurts to remember that the grass is always greener on the other side.
Is your ex still single. If he was cheating on you and that’s why you broke up, trying to reclaim him from his new women is just not a good idea. The old saying “you lose a man the same way you got him” is repeated so often because it is painfully true. If he is unfaithful now he will be unfaithful again and that is something you simply should not put up with. If he is not single then you need to really ask yourself is your looking for love or revenge.
If he is unattached, and you would still like to get him back then you need to understand that nothing has changed. The problems with the relationship did not vanish. You need to be willing to put it all out on the table and have honest discussion about them. If your not ready to discuss it then you are not ready to be getting back together with your ex. In order to clear the air, make a list of the problems and see if you are able to compromise.
If you are able to positively work it out then slowly start to date again. Pretend that he is someone new and re-find all of the things that made you love him in the first place. Be aware of the things you don’t much care for and make sure they are discussed before they have the chance to turn into a big problem. Try not to get caught up in the rush of familiarity, and like always, make sure you think with your head as opposed to your heart.
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